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On Being Overly Earnest

  • Earnestness allows people to express true feelings and be taken seriously. The energy and space created by being sincere can be special
  • Earnestness is hard-won, especially with everyone trying to play it cool all the time
  • The problem is that if all you have a hammer, everything begins to look like a nail
  • ‘Leading with love’ is ok when the other person wants to be in such a position but it can also be a forcing, maybe they want to connect but in other ways
  • By being only sincere is a form of conditional love i.e. we can interact but only on my terms