2024-10-14

Fighting Over The Dishes

• When couples fight over the dishes, it’s never about the dishes it’s about some underlying thing
• The dishes become and easy, identifiable target and the core of it is much deeper, much scarier to access
• To break a pattern is to zero in on it’s origin and that takes a severe amount of introspection
• One way to introspect is to ask ‘why’ a silly number of times to dig to the core: “why am I upset at them not doing the dishes” -> “they don’t care about the home we live in” -> “why does that freak me out?” -> “they don’t care about my welfare in the home” might be a line of thinking that can surface from this