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Desire Requires Separation

  • Perel writes that desire requires a leaping over a space between two people and the uncertainty with that.
  • There is a paradox because desire is to want to be close to the other but if a full merging happens, the space is closed and so is the unpredictability that desire needs to flourish.
  • Some long distance relationships are ironically powered by the distance. The longing creates energy of its own that may dissipate when the couple are reunited for good.
  • Further reading:
  • Mating In Captivity