Fighting Over The Dishes

When couples fight over the dishes, it’s never about the dishes it’s about some underlying thing
The dishes become and easy, identifiable target and the core of it is much deeper, much scarier to access
To break a pattern is to zero in on it’s origin and that takes a severe amount of introspection
One way to introspect is to ask ‘why’ a silly number of times to dig to the core: “why am I upset at them not doing the dishes” -> “they don’t care about the home we live in” -> “why does that freak me out?” -> “they don’t care about my welfare in the home” might be a line of thinking that can surface from this