Notes

These are my hot takes and rough notes. Thoughts, loosely held. Main site is here.

• The deals we make 2025-08-11
• Queen mother dynamic 2025-08-11
• Killing time to keep love 2025-08-11
• Is sheer devotion enough? 2025-08-11
• Princess Treatment 1 2025-01-18
• What's In The Basement? 2024-11-12
• Let It Happen 2024-10-31
• A Lover’s Healing 2024-10-31
• Death By Support System 2024-10-26
• Differently Shaped Containers For Differently Shaped Thoughts 2024-10-19
• To Clean The Table You Have To Put Everything On The Table 2024-10-17
• The Danger of Friend Groups 2024-10-14
• Respect Is The Heart of Love 2024-10-14
• Paying The Price For What You Want 2024-10-14
• Friends vs. Enablers 2024-10-14
• Fighting Over The Dishes 2024-10-14
• Consent Is Not A Magic Word 2024-10-14
• Breaches of Trust 2024-10-14
• Self-deception 2024-09-15
• Performed Care 2024-09-15
• Politics Is Downstream of Values 2024-09-04
• Couples Doing The Mountaineering Thing 2024-08-31
• Playing at Donnau115 2024-08-29
• Blogs to check periodically 2024-08-27
• On Being Overly Earnest 2024-08-25
• Middle Class Trophy Husbands 2024-08-25
• Women Speaking on Behalf Of Their Men 2024-08-24
• Intimacy Is Continuous Not Discreet 2024-08-23
• What Do Men Do On The Toilet For So Long 2024-08-22
• Pet Trapping Yourself 2024-08-22
• Pet / Child Trapping Your Partner 2024-08-22
• Passive Aggression Is Not Passive 2024-08-22
• Control Is Not Sustainable In Love 2024-08-22
• all about love, book notes 2024-08-22
• Adult Sleepovers 2024-08-22
• How Important Is Community? 2024-08-20
• “Catching Feelings” 2024-08-15
• What Has Brought Me Joy (August 2024) 2024-08-14
• The Men Who Change 2024-08-14
• No One In Control Issues An Ultimatum 2024-08-14
• since feeling is first – e.e. cummings 2024-08-13
• Flirting Is About Benevolent Transgressions 2024-08-13
• Whom I Think Of When I Think of Smoking 2024-08-09
• Loving Is An Affecting 2024-08-09
• Women-based MatchMaking 2024-08-07
• The Flawed Memory of Dating Apps 2024-08-07
• Privilege Paralyzes 2024-08-07
• Modern Dating Is Stranger Danger 2024-08-07
• The Sweat Gland Theory of Love 2024-08-06
• Boyfriends As Sperm Donors 2024-08-06
• Why Smoke Cigarettes? 2024-08-02
• To Leave You Must Love 2024-08-02
• Compassion Over Empathy 2024-08-02
• Hyper Independence As A Cope 2024-08-01
• Finding Freedom In A Bottle 2024-08-01
• The Red Pill 2024-07-31
• Patriarchy In The Streets, Matriarchy In The Sheets 2024-07-31
• Inceldom Is Not About Sex 2024-07-31
• Younger Siblings Must Die 2024-07-30
• The Problem With Instagram Is Friends 2024-07-30
• Normal Is What Happens At Home 2024-07-30
• Your Partner Is Not Your Best Friend 2024-07-29
• The Dangers Of “Harmless” Men 2024-07-29
• For Whom The Female Foot Pops 2024-07-29
• Children Of Divorces Getting Married 2024-07-29
• Call Me By Your Name 2024-07-28
• You’re Always Allowed To Change Your Mind 2024-07-26
• The Real Tragedy of ‘One Day’ 2024-07-26
• The Lost Men 2024-07-26
• The Diminishing Returns Of Dead Babies 2024-07-26
• Men-less Parenting 2024-07-26
• Judging People According To Political Beliefs 2024-07-26
• Home Was Made For Leaving 2024-07-26
• Germans Are Not Efficient 2024-07-26
• Do Not Take Normal Advice If You Are Not Normal 2024-07-26
• Desire Requires Separation 2024-07-26
• Countries Are Vassals For Companies 2024-07-26
• The Mute Husband And The Nagging Wife 2024-07-25
• Over-Protesting As Cope 2024-07-25
• No Complaining While You Have Dice In Your Hands 2024-07-25
• Cleaning As Conflict In Coupledom 2024-07-25
• “Men Are Trash” Is A Lament Not An Accusation 2024-07-25
• Your Therapist Will Never Slap You Like A Friend 2024-07-24
• We Live Amongst Digital Ghosts 2024-07-24
• The Dangers Of Adopted Wealth In Coupledom 2024-07-24
• Creating A Collar 2024-07-24
• Asians Exoticising Other Asians 2024-07-24
• Why You’re Anxious Reading The News 2024-07-23
• The Online Isolation Death Spiral 2024-07-23
• The Commodification of Experience 2024-07-23
• On Interventions 2024-07-23
• On Female Resentment 2024-07-23
• Norway Is Formally Liberal But Hypernormative 2024-07-23
• It’s Cheaper To Live In The Simulation 2024-07-23
• Friendship Is A Reality Sharing 2024-07-23
• Couples Treat Each Other Worse Than Friends 2024-07-23
• Apathy Is The Default Fail State For Men 2024-07-23
• Notes on Heteropessimism 2024-07-22
• The Experience Society Book Notes 2024-07-21